Visioning: Communicating with
the Higher Self
as conscious free will beings, have been blessed with a gift
of unimaginable power and beauty. This gift also reflects the
sometimes unsettling truth that we, alone, are fully responsible
for its use and the result we achieve. The gift is the creative
power of mind.
might envision this creative power of mind as an endless pool
of passive creative possibility. It possesses the power to bring
into being literally anything that it is directed to create
but it does not, on its own, initiate the creation of anything.
It is the direction that it receives from Spirit (our life force
expressed as our intention, emotion, and belief) that causes
it to create.
then, how we might choose to use this gift in our life to create
what we desire to have and experience. How do we go from realizing,
and ultimately accepting that we possess this power, to using
it to bring into reality the result we desire? We (the authors)
do not profess to have "the" answer but we do offer, based on
our own experience and understanding, "one" answer. It is called
is a powerful process that can be used by each of us individually
to help us create the model for our desired life experience.
When used in an aligned meditative process with others it allows
amazing results for all of the participants in revealing solutions
to challenges, and possibilities for new outcomes that could
not have been imagined or negotiated at a purely mental or emotional
level. It offers us the opportunity for true consensus rather
What does visioning have to do with relationships? In a word-everything.
As we go through life we spend a lot of time planning. We make
plans for our education, career, finances, family, our vacation,
etc. When we want to create something we usually create some
type of plan. We plan our garden and what type of plants we
will grow and how to lay it out. If we want to build a home
we develop plans that incorporate our needs and wants, reflect
our tastes, our chosen lifestyle, and large doses of our wishes
all of this planning and visualizing, how much planning or vision
do we put into our relationships? Maybe some, but generally
speaking, compared to all of these other parts of our lives
we really do very little. For some reason we have come to expect
that our relationships are meant to simply happen; that we can
go from day to day, and simply react to the situation of the
moment; that somehow this should be adequate to produce a satisfying,
nurturing relationship experience.
If we do plan our relationships, it often tends to take the
form of creating expectations of others based on what we want
from them. If only they would cooperate (being and doing what
we want) then everything would be great. Or maybe we sit together
and negotiate a series of compromises as to who will do, or
not do, what; create a set of “rules” that are designed to help
us live in peace and harmony together. You may have experienced
this, or something similar in your own life. Did it work to
bring you the quality of relationship that you desire deep in
your heart? If you are reading this, the likely answer is no.
if there was a way for those seeking to be in relationship to
create a model for that relationship that would allow each person
to fully express what they desire? To feel truly heard and respected,
while honoring our wholeness and that of our partner? What if
there was a way to create a genuine consensus about all of the
most important aspects of desire that each of you wants in your
lives, as individuals and in your relationship with each other?
What if there was a way to maintain deep, intimate communication
and have a way of addressing conflicts and meeting challenges
that does not require either person to “give in” or feel disempowered?
We believe that the Visioned Relationship process offers a way
to do these things.
the Visioned Relationship process we have incorporated aspects
of visioning and aligned, shared meditation to develop a way
for those seeking fulfilling, harmonious, passionate, and truly
intimate relationships to create energetic or “etheric” models
for those relationships which, in turn, allow the creative power
of the Universe to make them a reality. It is a process that
requires mutual commitment, responsibility, and compassion,
but it offers rewards greater than words can express.
When we discuss the process and power of visioning, it is often
confused with visualizing. Visualization is a powerful tool
in its own right. When we visualize we are also creating a model
that acts on the force of creative mind. Whether we visualize
something we want (a car, house, computer, etc.) or visualize
something we want to do (accomplish the perfect golf shot, skating
routine, or oil painting) we are creating a mental image or
vision of what we want. If we hold that image in our mind, infuse
it with strong emotion, and believe we can have it, the power
of creative mind responds as its nature requires and helps to
bring our image into form. Visualizing incorporates our idea
of what we want and requires us to see it as already present.
This is, however, a limited perspective because our vision is
focused on images and desires that cannot be greater than our
ability to imagine, which is, in turn, limited by our life experience.
If we seek solutions to challenges through visualization we
are limited to those solutions that we can “think” of because
we are using our mental faculties, which function in the limited
perspective of the third dimension of thought and form.
is different. When we vision we align with the highest aspect
of our consciousness, our Higher Self. The Higher Self is vast
in its perspective and, because it always knows and experiences
itself as one with Spirit, has access to all possibilities.
It is also fully aware of our divine purpose and the highest
good we have come into this life to experience. When we align
and connect with the Higher Self we are easily able to receive
its guidance and information, which totally supports our purpose
and the truest expression of who we really are.
Dr. Michael Beckwith, a pioneer in the use of visioning as a
tool for group work, said, “Visioning always begins with a deep
sense that we're surrounded by unconditional love. We enter
into the conscious awareness that we live, move, and have our
being in this unconditional love, and we open ourselves up to
what that love feels like. I don't mean just emotionally, though.
The feeling tone we develop is of a spiritual nature, and this
feeling is the whole foundation of visioning.”
is from this place of awareness and feeling that we then declare
what we are visioning about. We can pose any question, describe
any problem or challenge, and ask for the vision that offers
us possibilities to reveal itself. It may come in words, images,
feelings, metaphors, symbols, or simply knowing something. We
can write down what comes, dialogue and explore, and let the
When we learn the process of releasing our challenge to the
divine consciousness without expectation or pre-conceived ideas
about the solutions, we are able to simply be in that space
of love and let the guidance be revealed to us. With visioning,
as we surrender to the infinite, opening ourselves to the divine
power of unconditional love, we are attuning ourselves to the
Universal vibration or frequency. Access to this level of communication
brings great wisdom to those who are listening. We always have
the ability to see our challenges as opportunities and to seek
insight and guidance from this higher aspect of our being. It
is our choice.
use of this form of communication strengthens our awareness
of the profound relationship with the divine that is available
to all of us and attunes us to using this tool as a way of life.
When visioning, we are not trying to make anything happen. Visioning
is about surrendering and listening to the divine within, trusting
that from the “All that Is,” the source of unlimited possibilities,
an answer or solution will be revealed. What is revealed will
often be so far beyond what we can imagine that it can truly
be described as awesome.
certainly visioning is a powerful tool for individuals to use
in creating the life experiences they desire, it is particularly
powerful as a way for two or more people to receive information
and guidance that will help them reach a solution, in true consensus,
to any problem, challenge, or question.
in a shared, aligned meditation allows two or more persons to
connect and communicate at the level of Higher Self and jointly
receive the guidance of Spirit through the merging of the higher
energies. Those who have aligned themselves for a common purpose
to receive guidance about that purpose will find that new possibilities
and ideas flow freely without the distraction of more ego level
concerns such as competitiveness, needing to be right, or fear
of judgment in expressing one's truth.
Most often we think of meditation as a process where we remain
quiet, eyes closed, sometimes guided and sometimes not. With
the aligned, shared meditation and visioning process, there
is an ebb and flow where the participants ask questions or make
requests for information directed to the union of Higher Selves.
After each question or request is verbalized, there is a space
of allowing, where all senses may be engaged to “receive” the
answer. You may hear it, feel it, see it, or simply experience
a knowing. Trust what comes and write down your impressions.
Once all of the questions have been asked and insights, impressions,
symbols, ideas, and other forms of guidance have been received,
it is possible to remain in the meditative state and engage
in a dialogue that allows those involved to explore the information
and its meaning, which sometimes leads to more questions, and
the process begins again. When the dialogues are complete for
that aligned meditation and visioning session it is appropriate
to acknowledge your Higher Selves for the love shared and information
given and thereby “close” the session.
the Visioning Process to Relationship
application is the essence of the “Visioned Relationship.” The
Visioned Relationship is a new model for developing relationships.
It is new because, in this model, the unified Higher Selves
of the participants act as a constant partner in communication
and decision making. Visioning begins with the recognition that
we are surrounded by the divine presence that is Universal Spirit,
infinite, and unlimited. This unlimited presence is pure Love.
individuals in a Visioned Relationship recognize and acknowledge
the unlimited power of the divine as a partner in the equation
of their relationship. Evidence of this acknowledgement is their
commitment to meet all of their life challenges, as they relate
to their relationship, through dialoguing with their Higher
Every living being has an etheric body that sustains itself
as the perfect model for the physical body. It is this energetic
model that a physical body uses to restore itself from injury
or illness in the process that we call healing. While we tend
to take this truly miraculous healing process for granted, consider
the amazing fact that if you cut your finger, break a bone,
or contract some type of illness, your body is able to reverse
the trauma and restore itself to wellness. Imagine what life
would be like if we could not heal-we very likely would not
a Visioned Relationship the visioning process allows for the
harmonious blending of the energies and intentions of two people
in an intimate relationship or partnership. The intention is
for the partners to join together, with conscious will, commitment,
and openness, to create the equivalent of an etheric body or
energetic model for the relationship. Working together, the
needs, wants, and concerns of each person are explored and expressed.
In a series of aligned visioning sessions, guidance, solutions,
and inspiration are asked for and received. From this process,
the partners are able to create a clear vision of what and how
they want the relationship to be. In this etheric model the
intentions that are its framework are made in consensual agreement.
In this way neither partner feels he or she has been forced
to compromise anything for the sake of the relationship. The
relationship model is “visioned” into being.
There are no issues, concerns, challenges, or problems that
will not yield to this process. When it appears that no consensus
is possible, it simply means that a higher perspective is needed.
Having created an etheric model for the relationship, it is
possible to meet the challenges that all relationships face
and, in much the same way a body heals itself, let the etheric
body of the relationship serve as the perfect model that allows
it to heal. The difference is that you and your beloved are
consciously and actively responsible for making that happen.
as a Spiritual Path
many, the conscious spiritual path of “relationship” is the
chosen path for personal and spiritual growth. The Visioned
Relationship model allows for and encourages growth. It is a
dynamic model in that the only fixed aspect is the commitment
of the individuals involved to communicate from the level of
the Higher Self. When life changes occur, the intentions the
partners have created (through consensus and dialogue with the
Higher Self) can change with their new priorities, as they may,
for example, when children are born, careers shift, or partners
upcoming installments we will explore and discuss how to do
this process in more detail and offer some guidance about ways
to structure and use the information received in creating the
etheric model. We feel very strongly that understanding the
essence of the process, what it is and why it can work, is essential
for achieving the best possible results. We hope that now, with
some understanding and insight into the process as we have explained
it, it is easier to understand why, in earlier installments,
we placed so much emphasis on the importance of doing your personal
work before starting this process. Trying to engage in this
level of shared spiritual experience without a solid sense of
wholeness-knowing your personal truth: your intentions for your
life, your purpose, your vision-would severely limit your capacity
to release yourself to accept the divine vision of your own
life and your ability to accept and celebrate the same thing
in your partner.
all the experiences we can have as human beings, there are few,
if any, that are greater than the experience of a truly fulfilling,
intimate relationship where each person is encouraged and supported
in being the truest and highest expression of who they are;
and to feel absolutely loved and safe in expressing and revealing
themselves to their very essence. This is the true gift of the